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    Dear mom, how to cope when you need adult interaction

    Do you need adult interaction?  Listen to this scenario and see if it rings a bell…

    Tuesday morning dawns bright and clear – a perfect play date in the park for your kids!  You’re so excited to get some adult interaction with your mommy group you can hardly stand it.

    You haven’t had a coherent conversation in weeks.  You need to talk – vent, even.  You’ve got  a hankerin’ for adult conversation that doesn’t  have to do with 25 “why’s” and temper tantrums.

    Girlfriend needs some hardcore chat time.

    And here they come barraging you with complaints – just as you’ve settled in for your phone time or a coffee/play date.  “He took my swing!”, a snotty nose needs wiped or “I just want you mommy”!


    Dear mom, how to cope when you need adult interaction. Lessons from Jesus for moms who struggle with the frustration of the never-ending neediness of kids.

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    Why moms are under constant stress

    But you are mom.

    And Jesus was Jesus.

    Pressure was mounting for Jesus and He knew it was the beginning of the end.

    (Ever feel like that, mom?)

    He gave the disciples authority to cast out demons, cure diseases and sent them to preach the kingdom of God and heal the sick (Luke 9:2)


    And they departed and went through the villages, preaching the gospel and healing everywhere. (vs 6)


    Meanwhile, Herod zeroed in on Jesus.  “Who is this guy? He asked, perplexed.  “I already chopped off John’s head, so it can’t be him…can it?!” (My paraphrase, vs 7-9)

    Herod was sniffing out Christ.

    Jesus was under pressure from all sides while also shepherding the disciples.

    Motherhood isn’t your only job – am I right?  You may work from home, you probably have bills to pay as well as responsibilities towards friends, church, and family members.


    Why moms need adult interaction

    Meanwhile, the disciples returned with glowing reports, and Jesus pulled them aside to a private retreat.  They were ready for some chat time with their peers and encouragement from the Master.

    They wanted some adult interaction that had nothing to do with needy people.

    And here they came – the Jesus fans got wind of his whereabouts.  They came running, limping, and carrying the handicapped.

    He was the only one who could solve their problems.  He was the Shepherd with unlimited compassion.

    And He welcomed them and spoke to them of the kingdom of God and cured those who had need of healing. (11)


    After a whole day of this “delay”, the disciples felt the same way we mamas do because they’d already had enough of needy people for a while.


    “Now the day began to wear away, and the twelve came and said to him, “Send the crowd away to go into the surrounding villages and countryside to find lodging and get provisions, for we are here in a desolate place.”(12)


    Aren’t you just SO done by bathtime/bedtime?!

    Yeah.  Me too.  And I have adult kids.

    (Young adults get wound up around 9:00PM every night.  It’s not always fun.)


    Dear mom, how to cope when you need adult interaction. Lessons from Jesus for moms who struggle with the frustration of the never-ending neediness of kids.


    Why moms think God asks too much

    Do you know how Jesus responded to the disciple’s request to dis-ban the people?

    YOU give them something to eat.

    I’m SURE they looked at him as if He’d sprouted four heads.

    And then they told him there was no way they could possibly do that.


    “We have no more than five loaves and two fish—unless we are to go and buy food for all these peopl3.  (13).


    They shut Him down.

    They were so over this day.

    Feeding these needy, whiny “babies” was not an option.  They could go home hungry.

    They didn’t even care.

    For there were about five thousand men. (14)

    “Impossible.  This simply can’t be done.  He’s asked me to do something only Wonder Woman could do.  I’m not a magician, for crying out loud.”


    Oh yes, I’ve been there.  To the point where I totally did not give a rip if they were hungry, tired, thirsty, or had a fever by bedtime.

    Secrest OUT.

    Mom OUT.

    Only you’re not out.

    Because you’re mom.  So you do the thing, –  but you do it grumpily.


    And he said to his disciples, “Have them sit down in groups of about fifty each. (14b)


    What if you relied on the Savior’s unseen reservoir of strength?

    All I need is adult interaction.  A person with skin on.  That’s all I need.


    Do the next thing, mom.  Just do the next thing in faith, believing Jesus will help you.


    And they did so, and had them all sit down. (15)

    Dear mom, how to cope when you need adult interaction. Lessons from Jesus for moms who struggle with the frustration of the never-ending neediness of kids.

    How moms can power through the exhaustion

    Christ prayed and blessed the food, broke it up, and – didn’t give it to the people.

    And taking the five loaves and the two fish, he looked up to heaven and said a blessing over them. (16)

    Then he broke the loaves and gave them to the disciples to set before the crowd.


    He gave the resources to the disciples to give to the people.

    Just like He’ll give you mama strength you never knew you had.

    He’s not going to do it all for you.  You are going to have to do hard stuff.

    Mothering is HARD.  Mothering is CONSTANT.  Mothering is THANKLESS.

    And mothering is OBEDIENCE.


    And they all ate and were satisfied. And what was left over was picked up, twelve baskets of broken pieces. (17)


    How God makes it all possible without adult interaction

    Jesus provided for the disciples to care for the people.

    And then, He provided MORE.

    You will come to the end of your rope at least once today, mama.  That’s a vast understatement.

    But here’s what it all boils down to – your calling.

    Do you believe God put you where you are to be the mama of those children?

    If yes, then He will enable you.

    If no – then why?  Do you think you’re randomly in a situation He doesn’t know about?  Unlikely.  After all – He’s God.

    God of all the earth – remember?

    God sees you.  He knows all about you.  He called you.  He put you in the job of motherhood.

    And now, He wants to use you – through HIS strength.

    Accessible?  Yes.

    Impossible?  No.

    Hard?  Yes

    Impossible? No.

    Dear mom, the next time you’re so tired you just can’t even, remember Who called you.  Do the next thing.  Draw on His strength – don’t do it alone.  Below is one suggestion for how:


    The Temper Toolkit


    I want to share something potentially life-changing that could be a pivot point for your actions.  It’s in today’s Ultimate Homemaking Bundle Feature, with my promise to help in the form of a very special bonus.

    It’s called The Temper Toolkit by Lisa Jo Baker.  Breaking the series into 7 short days, The Temper Toolkit includes THREE WAYS to participate.

    1.  Watch the video of Lisa Jo Baker (her setting is gorgeous)
    2.  Download the transcript (because who can hear kids over a video)
    3.  Download the mp3 and listen


    Included in the package are gorgeous prints and screensavers for reminders of the strategies.


    AND – there are also bonus videos and checklists including how to have a scream-free morning routine, phrases to say to your kids when they push your buttons, and 6 daily steps you can take to diffuse!  (See how Lisa is measuring up on her temper through the eyes of her little ones and her hubby – awkwarrrrdddd…LOL!)

    This Temper Toolkit surprised me.  I had no idea how well-done it was, but having watched it, I can affirm for a fact it is worth the cost of the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle – $29.00.


    So here’s the thing – The Temper Toolkit is valued at $29.00 and is only offered at certain times per year.  But you can get it now, for the actual cost of the entire Ultimate Homemaking Bundle – and that’s only one of the terrific resources offered just in the motherhood section of the bundle.  (Check out the pic below.)




    AND – read below for my special offer to you with purchase.


     My Bonus Offers


    A Mommy Coaching Call; Temper Toolkit Masterclass; or Bad day mini-course survival kit!


    If you purchase the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle through my link and send a screenshot of your receipt, you will receive your choice of ONE of these three offers:


    1.  A private Facebook group to discuss the Temper Toolkit AND my mommy anger ebook, Count to Nine; 9 Steps for Mom Frustration and Anger.We’ll go through the 7 days of the anger toolkit together and discuss solutions.  Next, we’ll review each of the nine steps in  my book together and brainstorm answers to your situation.  This Facebook group will be open for two months to give everyone time to go through the material!


    1.  A personal 25 minute “mom-coaching” phone call from me.  We’ll discuss your parenting struggles and I’ll offer methods based on your unique set of circumstances. I’ve had 28 years of parenting four children – 3 girls; 1 boy.  (And nearly 4 years of grandparenting.)  This phone call will be scheduled after proof of purchase and adjusted to both our schedules.


    1. 7 Key ways to save yourself from a bad day or life streaming video session.(A $25.00 value.) Complete with:
    • Your very own copy of the Super Duper Bad Day Rescue Kit for Moms
    • Access to a free closed Facebook accountability support group for moms called MTO (Mom Time Out)
    • Information on how to join a personal *Couch to Knee Prayer Challenge (*Couch to Knee)
    • Plus a very special discount of 25% OFF my ebook, Count to Nine; 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Frustration and Anger  (also sold on Gumroad), only for those who purchase this exclusive webinar! (Coupon good for one week only.)


    Out of these 3 bonuses, you’re sure to find one to suit you!





    The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle contains a vast collection of ebooks, ecourses, printables, and bonuses, valued at over $2,000. And while there’s no way you’ll ever use them all, you’ll save money on the ecourses or ebooks you really want. There are 9 resources alone that are worth as much or more than the cost of the bundle itself. You could even use some products as Mother’s Day or birthday gifts – that’s what I do.


    And if you purchase today or tomorrow, you’ll receive the $10.00 eReader version free!


    That’s a lot to digest, I know.  Just remember, the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle will only be on sale from today, April 26, through Monday, May 1, and then it’ll go away.  So think about it.



    7 Ways Bible study calms an overwhelmed mom; Learn to study and interpret Scripture on your own and grow your faith with short bursts of time in the Word.







    PS:  3 more quick resources included in the bundle are

    • Feeding Toddlers: A Pediatrician’s Guide to Happy and Healthy Mealtimes  by Dr. Orlena Kerek ($9.99 value)
    • Cozy Minimalist Decorating Class by Myquillyn Smith ($39.00 value)
    • Rekindling Romance eKit: 7 Ideas to Help Reignite the Spark by Jami Balmet ($11.95)


    Learn more about the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle here. Lots of great info.






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