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    Tired of failing? How God turns failure into progress


    Did you know that God can turn failure into progress? He doesn’t ask you to do what you’re not capable of – with His help!

    “I’m so discouraged”, a young mama commented.  “I had my devotions this morning and I STILL yelled!”

    Others chimed in:

    “Just when I think I’m getting a grip on this, I blow up again!”

    “I think I’m a lost cause.  My anger just gets the best of me!”

    If this sounds like you, I know how you feel.  I said these same things when I was a young mom.

    However – wisdom and maturity developed with time. 

    Allow your  heart to receive this encouragement from Jesus’ expectations of the disciples, based on Mark 14:27-54


    Tired of failing? How God turns failure into progress; Gain God’s perspective for your mama failures and blow-ups - He'll use them as stepping stones

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    An awkward moment on a night of celebration

    The disciples and Jesus spent a memorable Passover meal together.  Every preparation had been made for their intimate gathering.


    As they reclined, enjoying the warmth and comfort of close fellowship, Jesus spoke the unthinkable.


    His uncomfortable words rolled over their ears and bounced around in their minds.


    Now as they sat and ate, Jesus said, “Assuredly, I say to you, one of you who eats with Me will betray Me.”

    Mark 14:18, NKJV


    And they became sorrowful.  One by one, they questioned Him, “Is it I?”


    When I read this passage, the thought occurs, “Why would they ask – didn’t they know their own motives?”


    Wouldn’t you know if you were about to betray Jesus?


    Not necessarily.  Do you always know when you’re about to snap?  Sometimes the anger wells up so fast you don’t know what hit you.


    Just like the mom who had her devotions and later yelled at her kids, they knew their own propensity for failure.


    Jesus continued breaking bread and pouring wine, putting a new spin on an old tradition; He claimed to be the sacrificial lamb.  Not fully comprehending, they feasted, sang a hymn, and stepped into the dew of the evening, headed for a favorite spot – the Mount of Olives.


    Think of it – Jesus knew their sinful humanity, yet He continued to sit among them and let God work on their hearts.  He wasn’t going anywhere.  He knew with time, God would mature their faith! 


    Then Jesus said to them, “All of you will be made to stumble because of Me this night for it is written:

    ‘I will strike the Shepherd,
    And the sheep will be scattered.

    Mark 14:27, NKJV




    God planned for them to fail! Christ didn’t ask them not to bolt because He knew they weren’t strong enough yet.


    They didn’t have power for success over this temptation. Years before, God had written in His Word (which the prophets foretold),


    “I will strike the Shepherd, and the sheep will be scattered.”

    Zechariah 13:7

    Tired of failing? How God turns failure into progress; Gain God’s perspective for your mama failures and blow-ups - He'll use them as stepping stones

    God really turns failure into progress?

    God sometimes allows failure to awaken our need for dependence on Him.


    • Sometimes it’s to show we can’t do it in our own strength;
    • Sometimes it’s to show our base humanity (sinful nature);
    • Sometimes it’s to give us enough rope to hang ourselves;
    • Sometimes it’s to make us stronger for next time.


    Peter vowed he was better than the rest:

    Even if all are made to stumble, yet I will not be.(29)


    Not to be outdone, the others pronounced their loyalty:


    And they all said likewise. (31b)


    Yet we know the outcome.


    We can’t continue in sin that grace may abound.

    God has big plans for us – if we’ll keep committing to Him.


    God gave us our own free will to choose right or wrong.  He will not force us to choose right.


    But He will strengthen us when we do!


    After the disciples fail:  God turns failure into progress

    Nearly all these men eventually stood up for Christ and were martyred.


    What made them willing to be persecuted later?  Why did they stand and not fall?


    Maturity in Christ.


    Have I given you pause with this stepping stone?  It’s a lot to think on.


    You have to start somewhere.  Today is that day.


    I want to share something potentially life-changing that could be a pivot point for your actions.  It’s in the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle below, with my promise to help in the form of a special bonus.


    Failures, repeated failures, are finger posts on the road to achievement. One fails forward toward success.

    C.S. Lewis



    NOTE:  Stick around to the bottom of this post to see my never before offered bonuses with purchase.


    The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle’s Temper Toolkit  is directly connected to our subject of using failures as stepping stones.


    The Temper Toolkit is by Lisa Jo Baker.  Breaking the series into 7 short days, The Temper Toolkit includes THREE WAYS to participate.

    1.  Watch the video of Lisa Jo Baker (her setting is gorgeous)
    2.  Download the transcript (because who can hear kids over a video)
    3.  Download the mp3 and listen


    Included in the package are gorgeous prints and screensavers for reminders of the strategies.


    AND – there are also bonus videos and checklists including how to have a scream-free morning routine, phrases to say to your kids when they push your buttons, and 6 daily steps you can take to diffuse!  (See how Lisa is measuring up on her temper through the eyes of her little ones and her hubby – awkwarrrrdddd…LOL!)


    This Temper Toolkit surprised me.  I had no idea how well-done it was, but having watched it, I can affirm for a fact it is worth the cost of the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle – $29.97.


    So here’s the thing – The Temper Toolkit is valued at $29.97 and is only offered at certain times per year.  But you can get it now, for the actual cost of the entire Ultimate Homemaking Bundle – and that’s only one of the terrific resources offered just in the motherhood section of the bundle.  (Check out the pic below.)


    AND – read below for my special offer to you with purchase.



     My Bonus Offer For You


    A Mommy Coaching Call; Temper Toolkit Masterclass; or Bad day mini-course survival kit!


    If you purchase the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle through my link and send a screenshot of your receipt, you will receive your choice of ONE of these three offers:


    1.  A private Facebook group to discuss the Temper Toolkit AND my mommy anger ebook, Count to Nine; 9 Steps for Mom Frustration and Anger.We’ll go through the 7 days of the anger toolkit together and discuss solutions.  Next, we’ll review each of the nine steps in  my book together and brainstorm answers to your situation.  This Facebook group will be open for two months to give everyone time to go through the material!


    1.  A personal 25 minute “mom-coaching” phone call from me.  We’ll discuss your parenting struggles and I’ll offer methods based on your unique set of circumstances. I’ve had 28 years of parenting four children – 3 girls; 1 boy.  (And nearly 4 years of grandparenting.)  This phone call will be scheduled after proof of purchase and adjusted to both our schedules.


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    The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle contains a vast collection of ebooks, ecourses, printables, and bonuses, valued at over $2,000. And while there’s no way you’ll ever use them all, you’ll save money on the ecourses or ebooks you really want. There are 9 resources alone that are worth as much or more than the cost of the bundle itself. You could even use some products as Mother’s Day or birthday gifts – that’s what I do.


    Click here to read about the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle Bonuses!


    The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle Bonus offers as well as my own bonus offers! Choose between a Mommy Coaching Call, a Temper Toolkit Masterclass, or a Bad day mini-course and survival kit!



    That’s a lot to digest, I know.  Just remember, the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle will only be on sale through Monday, May 1, and then it’ll go away.  So think about it.


    Meanwhile mama, be encouraged that God doesn’t ask more from you than you are able.


    Feel free to contact me here with any questions or struggles.  I’ll be praying! 🙂



    Capturing Joy,



    Rear Release Regroup


    PS:  3 more quick resources included in the bundle are

    • Feeding Toddlers: A Pediatrician’s Guide to Happy and Healthy Mealtimes  by Dr. Orlena Kerek ($9.99 value)
    • Cozy Minimalist Decorating Class by Myquillyn Smith ($39.00 value)
    • Rekindling Romance eKit: 7 Ideas to Help Reignite the Spark by Jami Balmet ($11.95)


    Learn more about the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle here. Lots of great info.



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COUNT TO NINE; 9 Liberating Steps to Mom Frustration and Anger

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The surprising reasons behind your anger

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One eye-opening tactic of envisioning a desired reaction

How the staggering power of unbelief can keep you from change

How to triumph through one key attitude adjustment

How to achieve victory over the stronghold you’ve struggled with for years

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