Scientists claim that we process between 50,000 and 70,000 thoughts in one day, making roughly 35,000 decisions.
Moms perform multiple problem solving skills on a daily basis.
What types of problem solving skills are you wrestling with today? Are you snowed under with decision-making processes?
Mine used to look like this:
marital “discussions” (ahem)
Today, they look like this:
marital conversations (of the wiser generation)
young-adult life decisions
finances aka COLLEGE TUITION – ack!!
elderly health care
Both of these lists have one exact thing in common: spiritual life. Still seeking growth, time in the Word, and prayer.
(You will always have to fight for time for this priority.)
Family remains in the forefront, yet in different capacities because of our children’s ages and the growth of our marriage (thank God).
I am now a member of the “sandwich generation” – my responsibilities not only include overseeing my grown kids, but also my parents and grandson (Tiny Tornado).
We still discuss finances, only now the college fees make us wonder what we were thinking – producing four children.
Instead of homeschooling or working, I blog.
How can you make up your mind about both small and large life decisions in a wise and timely fashion?
Maintain an attitude of prayer
“Skilled living gets its start in the Fear-of-God, insight into life from knowing a Holy God.
It’s through me, Lady Wisdom, that your life depends, and the years of your life ripen.
Live wisely and wisdom will permeate your life; mock life and life will mock you.” ~Proverbs 9:10-12
Daily time in the Word and prayer remain essential.
True wisdom comes from spending time with the ultimate Source. Click To Tweet
“Daily I live with (one) fear – a healthy fear, if there is such a thing. (It is) that I will miss something God has for me in this life. By allowing the routine, pressing matters of my minutes to bankrupt me of time for the most exciting, most fulfilling relationship in life.” ~Carole Mayhall, as quoted by Elizabeth George in A Woman after God’s Own Heart
I’ve shared a simple method I use to implement prayer in daily life, but keeping an attitude of prayer is also an incredibly powerful tool.
“In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths” ~Proverbs 3:6
Keep your Bible open and on the kitchen counter, or post Scripture on 3×5 cards in your kitchen windows and bathroom mirrors.
If you need to make a quick decision, pray right then. There’s no rule saying you can’t pray with your eyes open – even an “SOS, LORD!” Is ok!
True wisdom comes from God.
List 5 things
Empty nesting hits hard, ya’ll.
I discussed it with Jim one day as we barreled down the high way in the two-ton torpedo (driving camper – since that what we do now).
“How do you get so much done in a day?”
(I couldn’t believe I was asking this question, after all – I raised four children, kept them alive, and cooked dinner every night.)
“Every morning, I make a list of 5 things to accomplish for the day, and work until it’s done. If the day ends and I don’t finish, I’ll do it tomorrow.”
Let me explain something to you about my husband: he is very successful at what he does. He tells people what to do, and they listen, because he is usually right.
(I try not to say that too often, because it comes back to haunt me later.)
I began implementing his method.
And it worked.
I became more productive and satisfied because progress was attained.
At the beginning of the day, make a list of five things to accomplish. Click To Tweet
For the perfectionist (such as myself), it’s difficult to see those unfinished tasks staring back at you.
But take joy and satisfaction for what you did.
And let it go.
If you aim at nothing, you’ll hit it every time.
“On an important decision one rarely has 100% of the information needed for a good decision no matter how much one spends or how long one waits. And, if one waits too long, he has a different problem and has to start all over. This is the terrible dilemma of the hesitant decision maker.” Robert K. Greenleaf
Step away from the problem
Most days I’m fighting an uphill battle trying to write a blog post, and yet solve technical difficulties at the same time.
I hammer away, researching furiously, spinning my tires deeper in the mire.
Until I give it a break.
Do you know when I solve most of my technical issues?
In my sleep.
It comes to me during the night.
They say our dreams are the mind’s way of solving problems.
Other than the usual cliff falling and playing the piano in the nude for weddings…
I’m a living testament.
Give it a try. Walk away from your problem for an hour or two, or sleep on it.
Many times, you think more clearly after a good rest.
Bounce ideas off your mate
Your husband is a gift (whether you realize it or not).
He possesses a different perspective, set of skills, and personality.
My husband is my polar opposite. We rarely ever view a problem the same way.
Just like Jim’s advice regarding tasks, your mate will probably put a different spin on things.
Most of the decisions you’re making affect him or the kids anyway.
Last week, Jim came to me, seeking wisdom on a relational matter.
I immediately had an answer, being removed from the situation.
He took my advice and the situation resolved itself.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
“It doesn’t matter which side of the fence you get off on sometimes. What matters most is getting off. You cannot make progress without making decisions.” Jim Rohn
Decide according to your life map
She suggested screening what you let into your life, going as far as narrowing it down to the material you read.
What are your goals?
Do you desire a women’s ministry? Ditch the Vogue magazines.
If you’re interested in home design, don’t be looking at cat memes on Pinterest.
Life is too short to waste time scrolling mindlessly through other people’s breakfast choices.
Little eyes are watching.
Teenage minds are processing.
Young adults are critically filtering your judgment. Because now, they see the value.
You are a decision maker, mom.
Whether the question is, “Can I have a cookie?” or, “Can I go out on a date?”, you’re a participant in mental gymnastics.
Seek the Ultimate Wise One. Make a list. Step away from the problem, talk with your husband, and discern your priorities. Maintain a spirit of prayer for wisdom in quick decisions.
Read A Woman after God’s Own Heart by Elizabeth George and soak in her timeless wisdom – it was a life changer for me as a young mom.
I’ll never forget her mantra, cited in the book:
“Good, better, best – never let it rest. ‘Till your good is better, and your better is best.”
Seek God’s best with your thinking cap!