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When the waves of same-ness turn into tides of change

It’s time for “Five Minute Friday” over on Katemotaung’s blog, “Heading Home”!  Set the timer, write for five minutes, and post!  Today’s word prompt: “Same”


When the waves of same-ness turn into tides of change. Here they come - the waves of grief, washing over me like the ocean I've been viewing. Empty nest.


Kids love repetition –  have you ever noticed that?

When my daughter and her little family moved from their home just a month ago, Sawyer, my grandson (aka “Tiny Tornado”) kept asking for “home?”

My heart went out to him – and them.

They built that little home with tender loving care three years ago right after they married.


Now, they were saying goodbye to the only home they’d ever known.


Sawyer now has come to call my house “home”.  “Gigi’s house” is now “home”.

When they move again in a few weeks, he will have to adjust all over again.


It won’t be the same for him.


When he sees two toys alike, he picks them up gleefully and says, “TWO OF ‘EM!!”

He just LOVES things that are the same.

Every morning when I eat my honey nut cheerios, he hops up on my lap and says, “milk, too”.

Because mama gives him dry cheerios, but they pale in comparison to Gigi’s cheerios.




Last Tuesday morning my husband and I left on a trip to Florida.

I came downstairs all ready to go, without my usual morning hair sticking up all over the place and my same ratty robe.

“We’re leaving, Sawyer!”

He hopped down off the couch, clothed in his footie pajamas, with a big, worried frown on his adorable little face and said, “No, Gigi, no bye-bye!”


He wanted his same cheerios and milk time with Gigi.


I like same-ness too.

I’m still missing my kids not all being under one roof.

When I’m not looking, here they come, the waves of grief, washing over me like the ocean I’ve been viewing this week.

It happened again yesterday – that same wave.IMG_0882-711463


“My time with them was so short, Lord.  I didn’t realize it would end so quickly.”


But it did.  Just like Sawyer, I want things to stay the same.

I don’t want it to go bye-bye.



But there are new things God has planned for those who love Him, to those who are the called according to His plan!


Sawyer is getting a new house.

I am getting a new life in the world of ministering through writing.

And Paul says, our joys here don’t even compare to what’s to come.

It won’t be the same in heaven.

It’ll be better.


“The Spirit of God whets our appetite by giving us a taste of what’s ahead.  He puts a little of heaven in our hearts so that we’ll never settle for less.” ~2Corinthians 5:5


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  • Reply
    September 11, 2015 at 10:10 am

    I’m going to be honest with you. I can say this to you because I know you will understand and not judge. Well, I hope you don’t! 🙂 One reason I’m a bit apprehensive of my daughter and her family moving back in temporarily is, I will not want them to leave. I miss my girls terribly now that they are gone. The chaos, the noise, the moments I’ll probably question why we agreed to this will come, but in the long run, I don’t want the pit in the bottom of my stomach and my heart to return when I have to say goodbye again. Even though they will still be an hour away, it’s different when they are with you everyday. So I get this post.

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      September 25, 2015 at 7:13 pm

      Michelle, I totally get that. It’s hard when you have them back for a time and they leave again! I know that familiar pit in the bottom of my stomach too. Praying for you, friend!

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    September 11, 2015 at 11:16 am

    Gigi, you know you will weather this – change becomes life’s same. Because most “things” are always changing. YSFAM xo Enjoy the beach. I’m jellie!!!

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      September 11, 2015 at 12:43 pm

      You are right, Mimi. Change is the one constant in life. Oh girl. You know I’m enjoying the beach. I am a professional beach bum. 😉

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    September 11, 2015 at 1:32 pm

    Sawyer sounds like a cutie. Excited for his parents and their new home but sad that things are changing for you. But it will all be good! Parked over in the 9 spot this week.

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      September 11, 2015 at 2:03 pm

      He is so cute and full of himself!! If only I could bottle up some of that energy!
      Ah, yes it will all be good. Life is good and God has blessed so, so much! Good to see you this week, friend! 🙂

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    Rachel Quigley
    September 11, 2015 at 3:17 pm

    Oh, what a sweet story! And I’m like him as well… I love having it same, secure place. Change is hard and difficult and somehow that is how God grows us through it all! Happy Friday to you! Thanks for sharing!

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      September 12, 2015 at 8:14 am

      It’s just safer and easier that way, you know? 😉 But that’s not God’s way. The only thing that really stays the same is Him. Thanks for stopping by, Rachel, and have a great weekend!

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    Jeanne Takenaka
    September 11, 2015 at 3:21 pm

    Your little Sawyer sounds like a darling. 🙂 I’m with you. I tend to like things to stay the same. But, when I cling to the same, I miss out on the new things God has for me. I love the reminder that heaven will be so much better than anything going on here. 🙂

    Great post, Ruthie!

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      September 12, 2015 at 8:16 am

      He’s so cute, Jeanne! He’s full on though, full speed ahead! Yeah, it’s just safer for we women to want same-ness. But God leads us out of our comfort zones every step of the way!
      Good to see you again, Jeanne!

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    September 11, 2015 at 5:43 pm

    Thanks for sharing this! And thanks for your bright sense of humor!
    Hoping for the sweetest and softest transition for your little Sawyer.
    Love from Holland,
    Jasmine (nr. 70 on the linkup)

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      September 12, 2015 at 8:25 am

      Thanks for stopping by, Jasmine! Ah, I just love him. I just checked out your sight – your heading is lovely and you have a fresh approach! Are you from THE Holland, or are you talking about Holland, MI? I have to know! 😉 If so, I’ve been to THE Holland before and oh, it was lovely.

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    September 12, 2015 at 6:00 pm

    Okay, I wrote you a big comment back on this and it didn’t take. Hmmm, well, I’ll try it again. But, before I do, let me know this went through.

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